My name is Zinhle Ndyike, and I’m from the Vaal Triangle, specifically in Meyerton/Highbury-Henley on Klip. I want to take a moment to share my story in the hope that it reaches those who have ever felt overlooked, belittled, or underestimated. I understand how isolating those feelings can be, and I hope my experiences can offer some comfort and inspiration to others who might be facing similar challenges.

As a young girl, I never imagined that one day I would find myself in an LSEN school… an institution dedicated to children with special needs. I began my education in a mainstream school, but struggled in a class of 40 students. My grades slipped, and I found it difficult to concentrate. It was a challenging time, and I felt the weight of judgment from peers who did not understand my needs.

Eventually, I moved to Krugerlaan School, a special school that welcomed me with open arms. Initially, I faced criticism from children who came from mainstream schools, including some I had once sat alongside. However, I made the decision to let go of the negativity and allow God to guide me. In smaller classes of 10 to 15 students, my academic performance improved, and I began to thrive. I felt God’s presence in my life, even when I couldn’t see the full picture.

Over time, I earned six diplomas and certificates and served as a Representative Council of Learners (RCL) member for two years. I later pursued a four-year hairdressing course, earning a certificate that led to a career as a professional hairdresser. Despite being labeled by some as “abnormal” because of my learning special needs, I knew that God had a plan for me.

Today, I stand proudly as Miss Sedibeng’s First Princess, having won an International Award representing South Africa in the beauty queen category. My journey has taught me that criticism and judgment are tests meant to strengthen the warrior within us. To achieve greatness, we must rise above discouragement and surround ourselves with those who uplift and inspire us.

I have shared my experiences through an article about my life, hoping to encourage others who feel undermined. My aim is to be an example of hope and demonstrate that judgment does not define our worth… rather, it is the beginning of a new, empowering chapter in our lives.

My journey hasn’t been without challenges but because of all of my hardships, my story has become a testament to the power of perseverance and belief in oneself. Giving up whenever things get hard is not an option. Hold onto your dreams and focus on positivity. We all face all the challenges, but those challenges can build us into stronger individuals. If I could overcome my obstacles, you can too.

To anyone feeling lost or doubtful, remember that you don’t need validation from others. Seek your strength from within and from God, and you can become a future leader. Don’t let criticism deter you from greatness, let it fuel your growth towards successful testimonies.

You are a survivor, a warrior, a game changer. Together, let’s inspire and uplift those who are suffering from judgment and criticism just because they are different. Together we can become the change we want to see in the world.

By: Zinhle Ndyike

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In a world where fashion changes in the blink of an eye, I’ve found my own way to show myself and help the environment: I only wear used clothes. This choice isn’t just about style for me; it also shows my beliefs and my commitment to lowering my impact on the environment.

Every item in my closet has its own story that happened before I bought it. When I put on an old jacket or a gently used pair of jeans, I can’t help but think about the people who wore them before me and the things they did. It’s like taking a piece of someone else’s journey and putting it into my own. By buying used clothes, I’m lowering the need for new clothes to be made, which in turn reduces the strain on resources and waste that often comes with “fast fashion.” It’s a small but important step toward making the future more sustainable.

Some people might think that used clothes don’t have much style or range, but I disagree. My closet is proof that thrift stores, vintage shops, and internet markets have a huge range of high-quality, unique clothes. I have put together a collection that shows who I am and what I like. It has both standard and unusual pieces. In the world of used clothing, there is also an element of prize finding. Every time I go shopping, I have the chance to find secret gems, like a one-of-a-kind ornament or a beautifully made blouse that I know I won’t be able to find in a regular store. It’s a fun activity that keeps me interested in fashion without adding to the problem of too much stuff.

There are, of course, people who don’t like my choice because they worry about cleanliness or old styles. But I’ve found ways to deal with these problems, like making sure things are clean and putting them together in new ways that make things that look old look fresh again. It’s all part of the journey, and I welcome each task with open arms.

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I’ll be the first to admit that I love a good shopping spree. But with the economy being what it is and with a demanding and very expensive toddler to take care of, the days of splurging on designer pieces are far behind me. At least in the way that I used to. That is until I found Vinted. A popular second-hand online shopping platform here in France. Vinted has every high street and designer label item you can think of, and as I’ve discovered, there is a wide range of people who use Vinted, from stylists, editors, moms, housewives, students and everyone in between. In other words, you can find your Prada skirt or Gucci shoes for half or a third of the retail price, which is a HUGE relief. Not only is Vinted highly beneficial for my wallet and future spendings, but it will also come in handy for all the Christmas shopping that I want to do this season. I will find second-hand items of GREAT quality or those that haven’t even been used yet. I can also gift these items to my loved ones. 

Since using Vinted, I have also been able to offload items that I no longer wear and things my daughter has grown out of, which has been a great help in decluttering our cupboards whilst knowing that another family will get great use from the sold items. And as the heading of my article suggests, I have realized that whilst some of us may be put off from buying second-hand items predominately based on the stigmas around second-hand shopping, it is important to remember that second-hand shopping is highly beneficial. Not only is it a great way to save money, but it is also better for the environment AND is not as disgusting as people have made it out to be. Especially when so many measures have been put in place for your health and safety. 

Setting up and reselling second-hand clothes or home goods is also worthwhile. It is actually an excellent way to repurpose some of the goods you no longer need and perhaps benefit financially from that. It’s a perfect side hustle. After all, who doesn’t love a passionate side hustle? But if you are simply looking to update your look or even sell some items. Don’t overlook your local or national second-hand selling platforms as a starting point, with most sites and spaces offering support and insurance on items. You will likely get the real deal instead of some knock-off or something that looks nothing like what you ordered. 

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I know it has been a couple weeks since the 2021 Met Gala, but there is something that I have been wanting to share about this year’s Met Gala. Like many, I was so excited to see what was worn by the distinguished celebrities and influencers. And as exciting as it was, I was also aware of the scarcity of black creatives, in this case black designers that are represented on the red carpet.

Like big events such as the Oscars or the Grammys, the Met Gala is a wonderful opportunity for designers and design houses to showcase their work. This allows them to be seen on a global stage dressing some of the most influential people in the world. Consequently, the lack of representation has always been glaring, and has unfortunately been a reality for many black creatives in the fashion industry. This year however, the pain of this reality struck home a little harder as the theme for the Met Gala was: “In America: A lexicon of fashion.” While the theme itself is open to interpretation, the simple mention of the word “America” should have (at least in my humble opinion) included a wide range of African American and indigenous designers. Furthermore, the word “Lexicon” refers to references. Notably, African American designers have shown their imminence through their references and their unquestionable fashion influence, these designers have, throughout time defined decades of fashion trends. Essentially, their work can no longer take a back seat! – their work is worthy of centre stages and influential runways! – their work should be supported and honoured! 

Despite the fact that representation of African American designers was rather low at the Met Gala, there were some highlights that revealed that African American designers are not forgotten, in fact, these highlights were probably a sign that such designers have emerged and will continue to emerge. For instance, the head of fashion for Instagram Eva Chen wore a vibrant Christopher John Rogers dress that had a strong nod to the LGBTQIA community. New York representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez wore a custom strapless dress by Brother Vellies with the words “Tax the rich” written on the back. The biggest support of black designers however, came from Formula 1 driver, Lewis Hamilton who bought an entire table at the gala and invited young, up and coming black designers to the event (what a champion!).

I commend Eva, Alexandria and Lewis. They blatantly opened up a world of opportunities for black designers. Their actions become a global reminder that no matter how big or small, we can all contribute towards supporting, honoring and elevating black creatives in all spaces. So, even if we cannot necessarily buy a whole tables at events like the Met Gala, we can start by supporting local designers and black owned businesses. 

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Lately, I have been focusing my spending on timeless and elegant pieces that will hopefully last me a couple of years. After spending most of my money in my 20’s on trendy items from places like Zara and H1M. I started to realize tat whilst these items look good in the moment, most of them did not have staying power in my closet. Furthermore, even when buying from these stores, I wasn’t focusing on their more high end, natural material items. But as the years have gone by and my spending has gotten a little wiser, I am more aware of what I buy and think about how long I want it to last me.

Here are a list of four pieces I always spend a little extra on.

1. Good denim: As a mom, denim has never been more important to me than it is now. And finding the perfect denim piece often costs a pretty penny. Which is why I like to buy from second hand clothing stores and online platforms. I also like to ensure that I am buying 100% cotton denim that will keep its hold rather than blends that can stretch out and look outdated fast
2. Knitwear: As a South African living in France, I never understood the purpose of good knitwear. But now I know better with slightly colder weather that a good knit can be the difference between suffering all winter, or feeling cold and grumpy all winter long.
3. Flat shoes: As a heel lover, I never thought the day would come when I was more concerned with comfort than style. one the less I now know that good footwear can make or break my day (and outfit). From ballet flats, to good trainers. Owning and investing in timeless flats helps keep me feeling confident and ready to tackle the day.
4. Timeless jewelry: Nothing makes me feel more put together than putting in a pair of earrings everyday. I feel like no matter what I am wearing, adding some hoops or dainty earrings helps to make my outfit. Which is why these days my birthday wish list only includes good quality, sustainable jewelry that I can wear ever single day. This doesn’t mean breaking the bank either as some pieces are not too expensive and often go on sale.

What are some pieces you dont mind investing in?

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Whether you live in the Southern hemisphere, or the North, transitional dressing is something we could all do with mastering. After all, no one country or place has the same weather all the time. Here are six affordable transitional pieces we are coveting from high street brands.

1. Linen jogger pants from H&M: I First saw these pants on a blogger in New York and knew I needed them. Part of H&Ms conscious collection and made from sustainable material. this feels like a piece I will be wearing for years to come.
2. LemLem x H&M linen dress: Whilst this dress leans to sunnier weather, I feel there could be a strong case for layering it with denim and wearing it as a top. Or stockings and a denim jacket. Which ever way you chose, this sure to be bestseller is something we will be keeping in our closets (and minds) for years to come.
3. Ribbed knit Zara top: As a sucker for a good top. This one ticks all the boxes and feels appropriate all year round. Whether you chose to wear it alone or layer it with jerseys and jackets.
4. Tie dye knit cardigan and crop top from Zara: Tie-dye and cardigan. Need I say more? This colorful duo is great for wearing with jeans, skirts, swimming bottoms or anything you like.
5. Denim jacket from Zara: A transitional wardrobe would be incomplete without a go to denim jacket you can throw on for those days when the weather is a little unpredictable. This one is classic and can go with just about anything you already own.

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I never thought I’d say this, let alone write it. But my husband of late has been the more fashionable one of us two. As most of the world (including us) has been working from home. One thing my husband has been doing consistently for over a year now is dressing up. To put it into perspective my husband is not, and never has been a very dressy guy. His usual go to uniform for the office is a pair of colored pants muted colors, with a buttoned up shirt. If he has a big meeting then he will usually throw on a suit with a plain white shirt.

Which is why I was so surprised that whilst I was slumming it in my tracksuit pants and pajamas all day. My husband would get up every morning, shower and get dressed as if he was going to the office. When I asked him why, he said it is because it helps him feel put together, but also motivate him to work. Looking back I see how this can be true. As being in your pajamas all day can sometimes push you to stay in bed. Take longer naps than usual. And generally fall into a rut. Which is pretty much what happened to me.

Which is why over the past couple of days I have been making it a point to get up, workout, shower and get dressed. Whilst I have almost always worked from home in pajamas or sweats; Nowadays I am making an effort to update my work from home wardrobe to elevated basics, more jewelry and very light make up. And I must say after only a few days I see the appeal.

Not only am I more motivated to work but also get outside. Even just to get groceries or take a short walk as we are currently under our third lockdown. So next time you feel tempted to stay in your pajamas or workout clothes all day. Try making the effort to get dressed up even just a little. My current go to includes a pair of fitted jean with a stripped jersey, some layered necklaces and earrings. Or if I am feeling extra fancy, then I like to switch it up with a satin skirt and easy to wear top. What ever your happy medium is, try it and see if it changes your productivity.

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Here in the South of France where I live, things are starting to heat up. Just enough to shed a layer or two of winter clothes, but not enough to only wear summer clothes. Back home in South Africa, things are cooling down and in this interim period, no matter where you live. We are all starting to look to pieces that can take us through these in-between periods. Since I’ve been going through a bit of style rut I thought it imperative to welcome the new season with some key essentials. Pieces that are as stylish as they are practical.

1. A light coat & leather jacket: Nothing says transitional dressing like a light coat or jacket. I like to change between my leather jacket, and my trench coat. Both are warm enough for those chilly days but not so warm that they make you sweat.
2. Well-fitted jeans: It’s amazing how many outfits you can create with a good pair of jeans. I found mine at fast fashion brand Mango and I wear them all the time. The denim is nice and thick and the fit is just perfect.
3. Go to t-shirt: I’ve never thought about good basics as much as I do now. these days I love finding good quality basics like t-shirts in natural materials like cotton or linen. I am a sucker for a good stripped t-shirt but I also love a basic white t.
4. Easy to wear flats: As a mom to a toddler, I can say that my heel days are far behind me for now. Instead, I am constantly in the search for good flat shoes. For transitional weather where boots are too warm, I like to reach for a pair of leather ballet flats or a good pair of white trainers.
5. Satin skirt: Whilst the weather isn’t quite warm enough to wear dresses. I am one for layering my cashmere sweater with a satin skirt, t-shirt and leather jacket.
6. Cashmere jersey: Since buying my cashmere jersey a few years ago, I have never looked back. And before you think you have to spend a pretty penny, think again. There are so many affordable options to try. From second hand to sales or shops like uniqlo which stock a selection of affordable cashmere jerseys.

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For those of us who live in the Northern hemisphere. Spring is a hop skip and a jump away from being a reality. Which means this is the perfect time to clean out your space, closet and anything else that you have been hoarding all winter. Whilst I have never been one to subscribe to clean outs at certain periods. This year feels a little different, and I am wanting to feel lighter as we head into warmer weather. This is even more true as the reality of things opening back up becomes more and more likely. Like many people I have been spending the past year in sweats, very little make up and worn out clothes. So much so that when I did want to get dressed up recently I couldn’t figure out how to pick out an outfit.

Which inspired me to start looking through all the clothes I have and try come up with outfits and things to wear. Below are my tried and true steps for cleaning out my closet and finding my personal style.

1. Create a mood board: Before getting to the hard work, I like to sit down and pin outfits I love. Outfits that make me feel happy to get dressed up, confident and strong. After I am done pinning I like to see what the common thread is in the outfits I have put together. It seems the coming season is filled with lots of feminine dresses, pastel colors and comfortable by stylish flat shoes.
2. Edit accordingly: After I have honed in on the items I am loving. I like to edit my closet seeing which pieces fit my style and look. I also make a note of any pieces that are missing for when I shop. This ensures that I shop with intention instead of buying pieces just because.
3. Create piles: In true Marie Kondo style I like to create piles for my clothes during my clean out. This includes items that need altering and fixing. Stuff to donate. Clothes, shoes and bags to sell and those to gift to friends and family.
4. Make everything accessible: After cleaning out my closet I like to pack everything back in in a way that will allow me to see all my clothes as much as possible.
5. Play dress up: Last but not least is playing dress up. I like to put together outfits that I love and want to recreate from street style images or magazines I have seen. Having at least a weeks worth of outfits at the ready makes dressing up easier. Especially on days when inspiration is lacking.

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As much as I love shopping, I also am a huge fan and advocate for a good closet lean out. Coming from a family of three girls, closet clean outs are not only fun, but also necessary. Although my sisters and I vary in age, we do wear pretty much the same size. Which means when one of us cleans out our closets, the others win BIG time. I also love that clothes can be reimagined by someone else. because whilst we may share parents, our styles could not be more different. And seeing how my sisters reimagine or wear certain pieces is always a cause for great inspiration.

Another reason to enjoy closet clean outs is because of the hidden treasures you will find. I know for myself that when ever I clean out my closet, I find pieces I have not worn in a while that bring me so much joy to rediscover. Below are some of my tips and tricks for a fulfilling and useful closet clean out.

1. 1. Start by knowing what your style is: As someone whose style changes as often as the weather. I love putting together an inspiration board together to help me see what looks, styles, colors, cuts and clothes I am currently into. The great thing is that also with the use of platforms like Pinterest. I get to see cool ways of wearing clothes, styles and colors I like.
   2. Remove everything from your closet: In true Marie Kondo style. The best way to do a true closet clean out is to remove everything from your closet. This gives you a blank canvas to start from and helps you see just how many clothes you have.
   3. try on everything: The reason a good closet clean out can take all day is because of the various steps and process. One of which includes trying everything on. Not only will you see what fits but also what needs fixing, altering etc.
   4. Sort your clothes into piles: Gone are the days of only having a keep and throw away pile. When doing your closet clean out consider having several piles. Mine usually include; keep, fix or alter, give to family or friends, donate, resell and get rid of. The get rid of pile is usually my smallest and is reserved for items that have seen better days and cannot be fixed or used.
   5. Arrange your closet in a way that makes sense for you: Unlike Marie Kondo, I don’t think we all have the space or time to hand everything. Nor is this the best method for everyone to see and access their clothes. Which is why I say go with what works for you. Personally I like to color code my clothes for easy access and its a system that works for me. I

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