Chronicles of A Love Affair

It was the first time we made eye contact
The intrinsic initiation of our blossoming love
The beginning of an authentic romance enriched with compassion and friendship, resulting in it being sealed in the form of a devotional contract
Its purity was as brighter and whiter than a flying and elegant dove.

The radiance and striking growth of our relationship
Like taking walks in the park and staring at the sunset together
Talking to each other for hours on how we adore our companionship
Silky yet smooth like a well-polished piece of leather

It was the first time we caught each other’s eyes, creating a magnetic, seductive, attractive contact viewpoint.
Then began an intrinsic initiation of our blossoming love
A beginning of a love affair enriched by a view of sympathy for our troubled pasts, a friendship so authentic, resulting in it being sealed in the form of a devotional contract
Its sacredness is as pure, brighter and whiter than a flying, elegant, and white swan dove

What warms and eases our hearts is our relationship’s radiance and striking growth.
Like going on therapeutic walks in the park, and staring at the sizzling, orange, yellow, and red emotions of the sunset together
And talking to each other for hours about our problems, heartbreaks, and the sparkling future for us, and how we adore and appreciate our companionship
Our relish path is silky yet smooth like a well-polished piece of clothing dripped in fine, tailored red and white leather.

By: Itebogeng Nkoliswa

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1. What immaterial gift can I give myself this December?
2. What immaterial gift can I give to someone I love?
3. What is the greatest immaterial gift I’ve received this year? Why?
4. Whose gift of friendship do I most appreciate? Let them know!
5. Ask yourself: What do I want (e.g. validation, compassion, connection) from others that I can immediately begin to give myself?

These questions do not have a right or wrong answer, nor do they require an immediate response. Instead, these questions are meant to encourage you to reflect on the gifts that you already have and the gifts you would like to acquire for yourself and those you would like to give to others.

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Like it or not, friendships are not without their difficulties and obstacles. Like any relationship, friendships are built on trust and a common understanding and maybe even a certain level of expectation. Which is why telling a friend the truth about something can be tricky. Especially when that truth is not pretty. I know I have struggled in the past with being honest with friends and it took some trial and error to get it right. But if there is one thing I have learnt over the years it is that some truth is better than no truth. And that most times, the truth finds its way out anyways.

And I know all too well that I would rather hear something difficult from a friend than a stranger. So how do you go about telling your friend something difficult. Like maybe you saw their spouse cheating, or that you are dating their ex. Or maybe the truth you want to share is that you got the promotion at work they wanted.  What ever it is there are always three things to keep in mind when wanting to share the truth with a loved one, and especially a friend.

1. Timing: Whilst timing is everything, this does not mean putting off telling the truth for another day or week. Instead,  Decide within a week that when you are alone, and not confronted with any big life changes or drama (on both your ends) you will tell them the truth.
2. Be gentle: If there is one thing I often like to think about it is how I would like to hear difficult news. Often it is with some kindness. Even if those news or that truth are difficult to hear. Because if someone comes at you in a way that feels like an attack. The natural thing to do is to become defensive and even blame them for the situation instead of hearing them out.
3. Face to face: I still remember a former friend telling me some difficult things over text. Whilst this was surely easier for her. It made it worse for me who was on the receiving end. In part because I was left with my own thoughts. But also because it is so much easier to write things you don’t mean than it is to say them. The whole situation got blown out of proportion on both ends and now sadly that friendship is done. So whilst it may be hard, face to face is always best.

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