Written by: Admin_SheEvo

Now more than ever women are finding themselves in polygamous relationships without intending to. With the world becoming more modernized, and globalized, roles are reversing and women are seeking more from relationship’s. This could be money, commitment, stability or just to have fun. Which is why some women may find themselves exploring  the idea of having different partners at the same time. While this may sound cool. It can be dangerous if you’re sleeping with more than one sexual partner. Here are a few reasons why:


The recent statistics about young women between the ages of 15-25 who are getting infected is growing. I’ve noticed personally that when getting into a new relationship, I hardly ask about his previous partners and the topic of testing for HIV will be spoken but no action is taken which is dangerous. Having multiple partners that usually don’t want to use condoms is dangerous. We need to take care of ourselves and test regularly. To protect you and your perspective sexual partners, go get tested together every few months. 

STI’s aren’t fun.

Sexually Transmitted Infection’s can be passed through sex (penetration) or orally (kissing and foreplay). I know personally among my friends that we often think kissing strangers isn’t harmful. But you have NO idea where that mouth has been! With multiple partners its even worse and chances of catching an STI are high. The most dangerous thing about STIs is that while some symptoms can be seen, in others you won’t know because they only develop later. Furthermore, some symptoms can affect your chances of starting a family later on in life if you want to. So whilst convincing your partner to wear a condom may seem like a mood kill. Think of the bigger implications that one moment of pleasure can have on your life. 

Self Respect is key

Choice is a privilege. But so is being responsible with how you use your choices. Loving yourself and putting yourself in high regard is a good thing. Self preservation, self love and taking pride in yourself show that you’re grounded in your values and you know what you want. Multiple partners can show the opposite. Not to mention the stress that comes with dating various people at the same time. So whilst I am not one to judge anyone who wants to have more than one sexual partner at the same time. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, that the partners you are involved with know the situation. And that it wont negatively affect you if your friends, family or employment find out. 

Depression isn’t nice

When I went through my first heartbreak I literally felt like I couldn’t breathe. A lot of questions went though my head. I cant imagine how it would have been had I been dating multiple people at the same time! Having multiple partners can cause emotional drainage, stress physically or even conscious withdrawal from family and friends. Of course there will be good times in the relationships. But there will also be stressful moments with all of them.

So ladies, what ever you decide make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. After all, this article doesn’t seek to judge those in polygamous relationships. Or those living their lives the way they wish. It’s to highlight the power of choice and choosing what makes you happy whilst bearing the consequences in mind. 



My name is Yasmine Luhandjula, and I am the Chief Editor for She Evolves World. My role is to plan, manage and produce quality, engaging and informative content for our readers.