November is a reset month. It’s the second last month of the year, and we have decided this is the perfect moment to take on the resolutions we set for the New Year NOW! Why wait for tomorrow when we can start today? The chances are by the time the New Year arrives with a bang; you will be on your way to reaching your goals. We can Boss UP in many ways, and for me, I have decided to improve my physical health by working on my fitness levels and I have also decided to go to church every Sunday to work on my faith.
We also know that change doesn’t happen overnight. So we are walking the journey with you, celebrating the ups and motivating you when it feels impossible. Join us and share your stories with your tips and tricks so we can do this together.
November is also the month where we come together to rise against Gender Based Violence (GBV). Men violating women is endemic, and it’s a global challenge. If we want to see a societal shift, we need to dive deeper and commit to consistently raising awareness, not just leaving it to the last two weeks of November. We stand in solidarity with every one of you who has been affected by Gender Based Violence in one way or another. We understand that GBV impacts us all as a community. If we each do our part, I believe we can end this cycle of violence.
In my view, this cycle of violence will end when we recognise GBV as a global crisis that requires immediate and effective attention. I think that GBV has lost its sense of urgency for several reasons. Globally, we describe GBV without explicitly emphasising that men are the instigators of violence against women. This lack of recognition ignores the true nature of GBV and persecutes the victims whilst liberating the perpetrators. It raises important questions like Why is GBV commonly described as “violence against women” and not “violence caused by men against women”? This question represents the sad reality of the current global status of GBV. It highlights that GBV seems to be marginalised and reduced to traditional and patriarchal structures. And, yes, GBV has never been a simple phenomenon to understand. However, the fact remains men undoubtedly are the main perpetrators, and we cannot ignore this. It should give us all more reason to advocate for zero tolerance of GBV in our communities.
So how exactly do we stand in solidarity regarding this crisis? What do we do to advocate for the end of GBV in our communities? I think it starts by believing and validating victims and survivors of GBV and taking the necessary steps to ensure that they have the support systems they need. Secondly, we don’t judge, shame or blame victims and survivors, and we don’t make decisions for them. Instead, we offer options, suggestions and ideas, allowing them to make their own choices. It’s time we call out the perpetrators and not the victims. We firmly and unapologetically challenge toxic masculinity and patriarchal structures that perpetuate GBV.
At SheEvolves, we are changing the language around GBV and will continue to raise awareness in our community through our social media outlets. We invite you to join us and encourage your followers and social media communities to do the same.
If we act as a community in solidarity, we can end this cycle of violence.