Written by: Admin_SheEvo

One of the prevailing subjects of discussion today revolves around relationship breakups. There is an abundance of speeches, motivational talks, and counseling sessions regarding matters of the heart, which is undoubtedly beneficial. Many women express dissatisfaction with men, citing them as sources of conflicts, while men make similar complaints about women. Here, I’d like to share my personal experience.

My first relationship didn’t succeed due to a multitude of misunderstandings. Reflecting on it now, I often chuckle at my past self, and I don’t mind if you find my recounting amusing and crack a smile. During that relationship, I demanded to be a priority, to be pampered, and to be showered with love and care—everything a lady would desire from a gentleman. Consequently, we found ourselves frequently quarreling over trivial matters such as delayed or rescheduled dates, lack of introduction to his friends and relatives, and other similar issues. I felt insufficient, yet simultaneously unsatisfied. I believed being in a relationship would bring happiness, but instead, I found myself in a state of misery. It took me a considerable amount of time to realize that settling for mediocrity was not the solution.

After the breakup, I made the conscious decision to take time for self-exploration and to cultivate a healthier relationship with my inner self. As the saying goes, “self-love precedes better love,” and now I truly understand its significance. The feeling of being engrossed in my personal growth and healing is profoundly rewarding. This period of introspection has taught me valuable lessons, including how to prioritize my own potential. Beyond relationships, everyone has dreams to pursue, goals to attain, and challenges to conquer.

What we wish for ourselves, we should extend to others. By being focused on personal growth, I don’t want anyone to hinder my journey. If someone loves me, they should respect my values and encourage me to pursue my aspirations. At times, I’ve questioned whether I might have been at fault, or if the timing was simply not right for us. Now, those thoughts make perfect sense.

Love entails allowing others to lead their own lives, achieve their full potential, and retain their individuality within a mutually supportive partnership. This is something I am resolutely certain of now. I was born to give and receive love in equal measure. Every person deserves a better relationship, and achieving this requires mutual sacrifices and contributions to create something meaningful.

I firmly believe that there is no such thing as a “perfect match.” This perception often arises when partners choose to accept each other’s vulnerabilities. Let’s all be prepared to live, love, and learn.

Written by: Dativa Mugashe

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    August 28, 2023

    This is cool my lady… The experience you have shared will be of good use for those who will take some few minutes to pass through… May God bless you abundantly.

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    August 28, 2023

    Wow. Go big girl ??

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    August 28, 2023

    Thank you for sharing your experience. You are so brave!! ???

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    August 28, 2023

    Love this!!

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    August 31, 2023

    Thank you for sharing this Dativa



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