Written by: Phindile Le Bris Sithole-Spong

Everywhere we look, it seems everyone (including us), is telling you to practice self love.

But is self love actually possible? Especially in an age where we are told by our phones, social media, TV and adverts that we are not enough?

After a chat as a team, we started to think about what self love could actually look like. And honestly the answer is, we don’t know. The idea of self love itself is somewhat flawed in todays context. But that doesn’t mean we shouln’t try our best to practice some sort of love for ourselves, to ourselves. Even if that love is scattered, inconsistent or even if it happens once in a blue moon. Part of self love, or rather true self love, is also forgiving yourself. Saying, “its ok”; or “not today” or  even “not this way”.

And I for one am all for this type of self love. So today and everyday after, I hope you are a little more gentle with yourself when you are bombarded with posts pushing you to practice self love. After all, when we really break the word down “SELF” and “LOVE” they come to mean something entirely. The self is defined as “a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.”. And Love is defined as “an intense feeling of deep affection.”.

When you put those two together what you get is a call to honor yourself, to stand tall and proud against the grain. To be reflective in a deep meaningful and loving way towards yourself. And to do what is best for you, when it is best for you.


Phindile Le Bris Sithole-Spong

Having been with She Evolves since its early days when it was called GirlZtalk. Over the years I have held several roles and was part of the brainstorming team for the She Evolves that exists today. ¿Questions? ¿Do you want to write us, or to publish an article with us? Please go to our Contact page!

February 11, 2021